Egg Donation

I am an egg donor, and here you'll find details of my donation cycles. Go to the beginning of the blog for day-by-day details of each cycle. Questions or Comments? Email eggdonor@gmail.com.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Backed Out

I emailed the clinic last Thursday, after reading all the comments from Tertia's blog. I very apologetically told them basically the same thing I told you. I said I had agreed so quickly because I really cared about the recipients and their desire to have a family, but after a week of considering it and being full of anxiety, I knew that I was mentally and physically incapable of enduring another cycle. I said I really struggled to decide this, that I knew it would cause a lot of heartache, but I felt that I should back out.

They didn't contact me for 4 days. Then today, they called. They talked to the recipient family this morning. The recipients said that it was perfectly ok to back out, that it was a long shot anyway, that I was a wonderful human being, that every day they thought of the wonderful gift I'd given them, and that having an only child was perfectly ok.

I cried with relief. I would have been relieved to not do this cycle no matter what, but knowing that I hadn't completely crushed a family I've never met but still care about makes me feel much better. As of today, my profile has been officially retired at the clinic, so I won't be getting myself into a situation like this again.


So I'm retired. That's great. This is a dramatic close to an important part of my life.

27 Comments:

At 11:48 AM , Blogger Bloggeroo said...

Congrats a great "career" and don't beat yourself up over backing out. Everyone is entitled to change their mind--especially about something as important as this. You should feel proud about all the good you have done for the other families you have helped!

 
At 10:49 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello. I was googling info on side effects of egg donation and found your blog during my search. I am to start Lupron on Monday. I must say I am scared of this drug. I have read so many horrible things about it. Hot flashes, permanent memory loss, loss of bone mass to list a few. None of the stories I read were during egg donations but rather for endo issues they had. Still, it was Lupron and I am not feeling as sure as I have been. You did not say you had any problems with the Lupron. Do you know of anyone who has? Any advise for a first timer or anything to calm my nerves?
butifulmelod@yahoo.com or just post a responce on here.

 
At 8:22 PM , Blogger Savannah said...

Hey I just wanted to say you are awesome. I am going to the egg donation process right now. I am a recipient and must say I admire the courage and strenght of the ladies that donate. I am soo scared and can not even imagine what the donors go thru. As far as the lupron I had to take that once for endometriosis and did not have any side effects.

 
At 12:50 PM , Blogger New Beginnings said...

Thanks for sharing your story. There's no doubt you did the right thing. Good luck to you going forward and I think you've done a great thing educating me on what egg donors go through.

Best of luck!

 
At 6:33 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I commented on Tertia's blog, but wanted to say again -- you have no obligation to do something that you feel is not in your best interests, physically and emotionally. The posters who said otherwise seemed controlling and rigid.

 
At 1:19 PM , Blogger Anna said...

As a recipient of egg donation from my cousin, which we resulted in the wonderful 16 month old son we have today, I have to say I completely agree with you backing out. We're going to ask my cousin if she can do it again next year, but I realize it may be tough becuse she's in grad school. We look at it like this: we would really love to have a second child. If she can do it, and wants to do it and it fits into her schedule, that would be awesome. If she can't do it, or doesn't feel up to it, we'll be disappointed, but that's okay - we understand.

I mean really - it's not like we're asking you to donate blood - there's a LOT more to it than that!

Best wishes to you in all your adventures! I hope you're well. : )

 
At 8:28 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey, Im going through my second donation right now, i finished lupron (which i never have side effects from btw) im on day 7 of the follustum injections and went in today for my ultrasound and blood work, they called me this afternoon and said my #'s(???) were really low and if they didnt go up by thursday they would cancel this cylce (which is the worst thing ever since i was counting on this money for my bills for the next 2 months, and am keeping it from my family) Do you know what numbers they are talking about? and what i might be doing wrong? I have been taking some diet pills which is the only thing i could think of that would make a difference. please let me know if you have any advise im really worried thursday they will cancel and i'll be left with a body full of hormones and no money....abrookins@tmail.com

 
At 8:26 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

becoming an egg donor is an amazing thing and god bless anyone who does it, you should really do it!

 
At 2:18 PM , Blogger elizabrowning said...

Hi, I'm a freelance reporter based in NYC doing a story on egg donation and I am hoping to speak to people on all sides of the process. I'm wondering if I could ask you, and any of the people who have commented, a few questions to get some perspective on the issue.

Feel free to get in touch with me here: elizabrowning@gmail.com

 
At 6:22 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello--
I've e-mailed you before, but I just wanted to post this message up here for anyone else to see as well. I'm a student, and I'm doing some research on egg donation for a Senior Seminar class (I'm going to graduate this May!). I am also potentially interested in donating, myself. I am willing to do completely anonymous interviews, either by phone or by e-mail, with ANYONE who has undergone this process and who wouldn't mind answering a couple of questions. Again, no pressure...but I'd REALLY appreciate it. brabel@live.com, if you can help me out.
Thanks!

 
At 11:14 PM , Blogger Anne said...

Hi, I'm a potential recipient who has had two previous donors drop out (for different reasons). We now have a new donor. And I honestly believe that she is the one we were meant to have -- that's why the others didn't work out. Please don't second-guess yourself or feel any guilt. What you have done for others is already incredibly generous. Good luck.
Anne @ eggedon.blogspot.com

 
At 3:57 PM , Anonymous Renee Smith said...

I love how we as women can give something so precious to other women who would otherwise not be able to conceive. Until now, very little is known about the potential long-term health risks of ovarian stimulation. We also know little about how egg donors feel about their experience, or what information they wish they had received at the time. Two researchers (a physician and the mother of a donor-conceived son, are seeking to get a better understanding of how egg donation affects women as time goes on, as we know of no medical studies or formal research on this topic. Please, take a look at this survey I found and tell your friends who have donated as well about it. Based on the replies, they hope to write an article for a scientific journal. Your answers will be kept anonymous, as they will only share the collective data, and no one¹s personal information. The survey results will be valuable in pushing the medical community to further investigate how egg donation physically and emotionally affects women who donate. The questions should only take a few minutes to answer. To access the survey, clink on the link below:

http://www.donorsiblingregistry.com/DSRblog/index.php

Thank you so much for reading this post. If you, a donor, fill out this survey we can better protect those who want to share the precious gift of life and joy with other women.

Renee Smith
Veritas_soleil@hotmail.com
“May the sun always reveal the truth in men’s hearts”

 
At 1:24 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

i just wanted to say thank you for writing this blog! i am almost ready to finish my first donor cycle (the trigger shot is tonight) - and reading through this has helped with the questions i have had throughout the process. i'm starting to get a bit bloated and nauseous, so reading how someone has gotten through ohss (in the event that i get it) has been reassuring.
thanks again!

 
At 8:23 PM , Blogger Courtney said...

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At 8:47 PM , Blogger Suzi2008 said...

I have a donor blog as well (just started) and I thank you for having this blog when I was first beginning my journey - I have donated multiple times since.


Thanks,

Suzi

 
At 5:33 PM , Blogger Asian Egg Donor said...

Very informative blog. Thank you for blogging about it. It also helped me out with what to expect now that I am going through the process myself. :)

 
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At 8:15 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

o...my name is mitchell from baltimore maryland about egg donation..i just want to share my experience with you how i got my own kids..i was unable to have children cos my womb was damaged and medically there was no solution to it.. and i was married for about 10years without kids and my husband was getting tired of it..really gave me sleepless nights and i felt so bad...so someone told me about a spiritualist/spell caster who helped me out.. i just couldnt believe it...he did a miracle in my life..medically, i was gone..couldnt have kids..but right now, i have 3 children and i am happy with my family..the miracle was tremendous.. he used african herbs and roots and they worked for me and i have introduced a lot of other people to him who have same miraculous experience..i just want to advise you not to give up...you can give him a try as well..he is very powerful...it didnt even cost anything..he just did it to help me and i owe everything to him now..plss give him a try..dont give up..i can imagine what you are going through..his email address is SPELLSFORBETTERLIFE AT YAHOO DOT COM

 
At 12:51 PM , Anonymous Patrick said...

Thanks for a great run! If anybody in NY is looking to donate, there are some great egg donation new york options, make sure you check them out!

 
At 12:30 PM , Blogger LadyNoÄgg said...

Hi! I just want to say you ARE a wonderful human being. I am at your age but unfortunatly I was diagnosed with premature ovarian faliuar and people like you gives us hope!!! So even thogh I dont know you I must say you are an angel!!!

 
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At 11:46 AM , Blogger John Deutsch said...

There's a video on YouTube which I thought would be a great addition to the readers of this blog. It discusses the challenges of making the decision to be a Egg Donation recipient. The video is called Egg Donation on YouTube or you can see it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PK8pt7ljxhM

 
At 2:12 AM , Anonymous donate eggs said...

I was kind of interested on donating eggs. Good thing I found this blog. Thank you guys for sharing. Keep it coming.

 
At 4:58 AM , Anonymous Egg Donor said...

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At 11:56 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for everything. I'm an egg donor right now and have my retrieval this upcoming Saturday the 12th. I was scared along the way, but I know my first couple has gone through a lot (three miscarriages and two previous donors that have failed). This means a lot to me and I felt that you held my hand along the way. YOU ARE AMAZING and like everyone else, you made the right decision. Thank you again.

<3 LC

 
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